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Carolina Counseling Services contracts with Independent Licensed professional counselors/therapists and Psychologists who provide a friendly, relaxed and safe atmosphere to everyone. Carolina Counseling Services Fuquay-Varina assists individual adults and couples with resolving issues so that life can be enjoyed again. We also love to work with the military and feel privileged to assist dependents and retired military and their families.

  • Insurances: Tricare and Blue Cross Blue Shield

  • Everything CCS is Confidential and Private! We abide by HIPAA laws, by using encrypted tools to protect your medical record and respect your rights in every way.

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Therapy, Counseling and Psychotherapy are often used interchangeably in English. This is also the case for Counselor, Therapist and Psychologist. It really doesn't matter the word used. When needed, it is most helpful to talk to someone who is experienced and trained in helping others. A friendly, caring Counselor, Psychologist or Therapist who is professionally licensed and experienced is most likely to be able to help the most. You don't have to work your issues out alone. These independently contracted therapists are the licensed, friendly professionals that you have been looking for! Call or text now to schedule your appointment!


Welcome to Carolina Counseling Services of Fuquay-Varina, NC!

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When you decide to create a fresh start and reality that would generate a fulfilling and happy life for you and those you care about, you may be looking for some help. As you step on the threshold of the new Carolina Counseling Services office at Fuquay-Varina, NC, you know right away that your trust is well-placed. Like the rest of the CCS offices in NC, coming to CCS- Fuquay-Varina, NC is like coming home.

It’s just in the neighborhood…

We are bringing our services closer to you. Our office is located in room #103 at the Teacherage, a beautiful, comfortable unique historical building located at 602 East Academy Street, in Fuquay-Varina.

There’s no reason for hesitation…

We know keeping the matter private is important for you or your child. At this time when all you should be concerned about is feeling and thinking better, we don’t want you bothered by a signage that can stir apprehension. Coming to Carolina Counseling Services - Fuquay-Varina, NC frees your mind from worrying about stigma or labels. Here, you will be welcomed by a homey ambiance that makes you feeling positive - calm, relaxed and reassured.

We make things easy for you…

Who wants to be bothered by referrals? Carolina Counseling Services - Fuquay-Varina, NC knows your hands are full, which is why we are ready to assist you process insurances particularly those covered by Tricare, Blue Cross Blue Shield, and Medicare If you have another insurance provider and you would like to make an appt, call us and we will be happy to discuss your options.

You will be in good hands…

Carolina Counseling Services, with 21 years of experience and offices in both Fayetteville and Southern Pines, has made a reputable name to trust. It is the same business that is offering you CCS- Fuquay-Varina, NC. Carolina Counseling Services has over 20 independently contracted licensed and experienced therapists in the Fayetteville and Southern Pines areas. In Fuquay, we currently are starting small and then expanding – all with caring, friendly independently contracted therapists who can help you rediscover a rewarding and more fulfilling life as an individual, couple or family.

To get information about our services or to make an appointment, please feel free to call us at 910-485-6336. You may also send us a text, or send us an email Please note that if you text or email, our return message will always be by telephone to ensure security and your privacy.

It is proactive to find help when you or a family member is bothered by certain life events/perceptions/stressors. This is why it matters that you choose CCS- Fuquay-Varina, NC, where you will enjoy a relaxed setting and a licensed professional who is both friendly and helpful. In this environment, it is much easier to get issues and problems resolved so that you may move on to enjoy your life.

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Fuquay-Varina, NC Office Address and Information:

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Carolina Counseling Services Fuquay-Varina, NC
602 E. Academy St. Suite 103
Fuquay-Varina, NC 27526

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Confidential / Private Sessions

If you’re experiencing stressful life situations or going through an emotional crisis, you might be reluctant to seek counseling knowing your most private feelings would be shared with a stranger – the therapist. It is nearly impossible for a therapist to provide the necessary help if you’re unwilling to open up your innermost feelings due to lack of trust. For counseling to be successful, it must be built on trust..

Trust is the foundation of a counselor-client relationship. It is the first thing that any therapist will assure you from the very start of the counseling process in order to put your mind and body at ease. Maintaining confidentiality is an important ethical code and responsibility required by professional counseling organizations.

High Standards of Ethical Behaviors

The American Psychological Association has established the Ethical Principles of Psychologists and Code of Conduct which is strictly to be followed by its members. Another important instrument to guide counselors to practice their profession with the highest ethical standards is the Code of Ethics approved by the governing council of the American Counseling Association. Counselors are committed to abide by the principles outlined in these codes of ethical practices, including safeguarding information derived during therapy sessions. When you seek therapy, you can be assured that all the personal information you provide is guarded with the utmost confidentiality.

Counseling Shrouded with Confidentiality

Confidentiality is a sensitive issue for both therapists and clients. It means all personal, private and intimate information is held in confidence by your counselor and cannot be accessed without your authority.

With this assuring fact, you’re more inclined to reveal even the most intimate issues hidden in the deepest recess of your mind. The trust you feel for the counselor impels you to share whatever emotional issues bother you cognizant of the fact you’re protected by the code of confidentiality.

** Please note exceptions to this are by law, and is the same at any other counseling facility or practice in NC: If there is imminent harm to someone, or suspected child or elder abuse, these must be reported to appropriate authorities.

Privacy Matters at Carolina Counseling Services

Confidentiality can be expected from the every contracted therapist, counselor or Psychologist at Carolina Counseling Services. Every session is considered unique and privacy is an essential ingredient.


8 Signs You May Benefit from Counseling

When you are not feeling yourself and you have difficulty doing the things you enjoy, it can help to work with an unbiased professional who can help guide you through these difficult times.

Here are eight signs that you may benefit from counseling:

  1. 1. Experiencing very intense emotions. It is normal to experience grief, pain, anger, fear, etc. However, when feelings become unbearable, or too frequent, for what feels like too long or the emotions are hampering your day-to-day life, you may benefit from professional counseling.

  3. 2. A traumatic event is constantly in your thoughts. Again, it is normal to think about it and be affected by a traumatic event in your life. If you are struggling to bounce back it may be time to call.

  5. 3. You are bothered by unexplained physical symptoms. This may prompt you to see a doctor. If the doctor cannot find a medical cause for symptoms after running some tests, it is good to explore all angles; this may be a good time to consult with a therapist.

  7. 4. You find yourself abusing a substance. Your use could be causing problems in your life you may or may not be aware of. This may be a good time to engage in counseling.

  9. 5. You are not performing well at work or school. If your level of performance has gone down due to loss of interest, fatigue, or difficulty focusing, this is a great time to find out why. A therapist can help you find the source of these issues.

  11. 6. You feel sad and disconnected from those that you used to feel passionate about. If previous passions start to become lackluster, you could benefit from consulting with a professional to help you find out why. It could be a symptom of something more serious.

  13. 7. You have difficulty trusting and your relationships are troubled. You may need to resolve those past issues to find happiness and to prevent you from perpetuating those patterns in your own life.

  15. 8. You have changed in a negative way. If the people who truly care for you have already voiced a common concern or observation, it may be wise not to ignore them.


It is not only beneficial to consult a counselor when you are experiencing emotional turmoil. You may also want to see a therapist because you want to feel better, perform better and/or make your life better. If you want to explore barriers to self-esteem, to love yourself more, to be more successful at school/work, to be a better parent, or to make your good marriage great. There are professionals to help you attain your goals. If you want these things to change, there is nothing more enlightening than working with a therapist.

When you notice any of these eight signs feel free to call Carolina Counseling Services in Fuquay-Varina, NC. We have licensed independent contracted therapists to help you go through life when it is extra challenging. Call us to today.


11 Reasons Why you may want to Visit a Licensed Therapist before a Psychiatrist

People go through an exhaustive process of soul searching before they make up their minds to seek professional help for persistent emotional and psychological issues. It is a decision that takes courage, and people make it because they know it will help improve their lives. If you have made this decision, you have taken a courageous first step towards addressing the challenges in your life.

You probably see that the next thing on your table is finding the right professional who will help you, and you will probably ask yourself: Should I go to a licensed therapist or a psychiatrist? It is sometimes difficult to determine which professional you should see because in many ways, psychology and psychiatry are fields that overlap. Both fields are dedicated to mental and emotional well-being, and among other things, both are devoted to the study of the mind, emotions, and behavior.

There are many differences in the academic preparation of people who work in these two fields. Furthermore, there are many differences in the way therapists and psychiatrists conduct their interventions. In some cases, a therapist and a psychiatrist will work together or coordinate the management of a client’s treatment. Generally, however, seeing a therapist is the first step to take, and there are at least 12 reasons why this is a wise move.

  1. 1. Psychiatric treatment is a last rather than a first resort. Remember: Psychiatric treatment is usually medication only. A good number of cases can be handled with therapy minus the psychotropic medications that have to be prescribed by a psychiatrist. Therapy has often been proven as a sufficient intervention, and therapists tend to focus more on helping clients modify the behavior and lifestyle that lead to the emotional or mental issues the client is grappling with.
  2. 2. An assessment by a therapist will help ascertain the kind of assistance you need. One of the things that licensed therapists are trained to do is to determine the cause of a person’s symptoms. An evaluation by a therapist will show whether or not a client needs psychotropic medications. If these are needed, the therapist will refer the client to a psychiatrist, but if these are not necessary, there would be no need to go under the care of a psychiatrist.
  3. 3. A visit to a therapist is an uncomplicated and helpful first step. Visiting a therapist is a helpful first step to take, especially if you have a lot of concerns (children, marital conflict, adjustments to life changes, overwhelm) demanding your attention at the same time. A psychologist will help you sort out these concerns, which is what you need most when you try to get a handle of everything. A psychiatrist will focus on prescribing medication to resolve symptoms rather than help you come to an understanding of what you need and what you really want to do.
  4. 4. Therapists can give you more time. In most areas in the United States, there is a shortage of psychiatrists so that they are generally pressed for time and unable to spend more than 15 minutes with you. A good part of this time is used to discuss or follow up your medication.
  5. 5. Some psychiatrists actually require their clients to be referred by a therapist. Because of the shortage of people in this specific field, many psychiatrists prefer that their patients be referred to them by a licensed psychologist. A good number of psychiatrists welcome the idea of having patients who continue to work with therapists for issues or concerns that they have no time themselves to help their patients through.
  6. 6. The therapist is an added resource and “safety net” for psychiatric patients. Having a therapist in the picture means a psychiatric patient consistently has a licensed professional to provide assistance when the psychiatrist cannot provide the time for this. In fact, rather than provide this intervention themselves, most psychiatrists will refer their patients to a therapist if therapy is needed.
  7. 7. Therapists can help you improve your compliance with medications. A relationship of trust is built between a therapist and a patient, and most psychiatrists acknowledge this. Because of this, psychiatrists often draw on the support of therapists to help their patients adhere to their medications. Your therapist will help you understand your medication better and this will help you follow your prescription faithfully.
  8. 8. Counselors will help you arrive at an informed decision about your treatment options. Your therapist will not only make a professional assessment of your symptoms and discuss with you your treatment options. They will also help you see whether the signs and symptoms you manifest call for the use of psychotropic medications. They will help you evaluate the different treatment options open to you and refer you to a psychiatrist if this is necessary.
  9. 9. Your therapist will be able to refer you to a good psychiatrist. Therapists have good information about the psychiatrists available in your area. If your therapist sees you need medications that can only be prescribed by a psychiatrist, your therapist will refer you to a psychiatrist. In doing this, your therapist is able to choose a psychiatrist they believe that you can work with, and one who can best help you.
  10. 10. Therapists can help you achieve wellness without psychotropic drugs and the ensuing side effects. If you visit a therapist first, you will be able to explore options that do not include psychotropic drugs, some of which have undesirable side effects. If your concern is something that can be resolved without drugs, your therapist will help you find a way to do it.
  11. 11. Care under a therapist is the more economical option. Seeing a psychiatrist will cost you much, much more than seeing a therapist. On top of that, seeing a psychiatrist means paying even more for the psychotropic medications that will be prescribed. Psychiatrists charge approximately $250 for a 45 minute first appointment, and then $85 or so for succeeding follow-up sessions that last about 15 minutes or less. Therapists usually charge about $100 for an hour’s session. (Most insurance policies will cover all or a part of a -session whether this is with a therapist or a psychiatrist. It is best to check with your insurance what their policy is.)

If you feel that your life has been difficult lately and you are thinking about asking for professional help, make sure that you see a therapist first. If you are in North Carolina, you will surely get the help you need from one of the independently contracted therapists at Carolina Counseling Services in Fuquay-Varina, NC.


How Talking to a Counselor can Change Your Life

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If your normal feelings can be described as sad, angry, confused, anxious, hopeless, guilty, or painful on most days, then you must be in anguish. Feeling bad most of the time makes for a miserable life. If you are wondering what you can do to feel good, why not release these emotions, resolve those unresolved issues? Talking is good, and talking to a counselor is even better.

Talking about your negative emotions, experiences, life events, issues and oppressive thoughts can be amazingly healing. But, while family and friends may be willing to listen, they may not be able to provide the kind of help you need for an emotional condition such as depression or anxiety. They probably will not be able to help you resolve your issues. They also may not be able to stay neutral if you wish to talk about concerns involving your spouse, parents, siblings, children, or friends.

If you want to feel better and change your life, talking to a counselor or a therapist is a valuable option.

Therapy Works!

You must have noticed how you can feel better after talking about troubling thoughts with a family or friend. Talking to a counselor or therapist works in the same way, only much better!

As well as a listening ear, they can help you sort out what needs to be sorted out. As a professional, your therapist will not only listen, but trace the roots of your emotional issues and help you make constructive changes in your life to resolve and overcome your concerns and difficulties. They can be a positive influence in your life, providing you with an alternative perspective and encouragement at a time when you need it most.

Therapy works because it goes beyond talking. It uses strategies that make you work toward the resolution of your issues. This means that talking during therapy is not focused only on your feelings and issues, but also on ways to help you overcome those things that are resulting in the overwhelming symptoms you are experiencing.

The Role of a Good Therapist

There is a world of difference between talking to a good therapist and just plain talking to any person (family or friend). Since they facilitate your therapy, they will ask you questions and guide you to get the most out of the therapy or counseling. An experienced therapist will know how to help you.

If you work with a therapist you trust, you find yourself feeling comfortable. This is important in order to share your innermost guarded thoughts and work toward successful resolution of issues.

With a good therapist you trust, you can:

  • • Face your concerns bravely because you know someone supports you without any bias or expectations.
  • • Understand the reasons you are reacting the way you do to some factors or stresses.
  • • Define, set, and attain your wellness goals.
  • • Create a steady, reliable routine that helps you adjust better despite some symptoms.
  • • End negative and unhealthy perspectives and practices.
  • • Accept your chronic medical condition and enjoy your life.
  • • Understand and resolve the factors or experiences contributing to your fears, anxiety, or insecurities.
  • • Better be prepared for those unforeseen stressful life events.
  • • Recognize the triggers and stop symptoms that may send you into a downward spiral
  • • Make sense and resolve the lingering issues of your unhappy life as a child or other past disturbing experiences.
  • • Recognize your true self and separate it from the one created by your behavioral or emotional condition.
  • • Repair and improve your relationships with the people you care about.
  • • Create a plan you can use when a crisis arises that threatens to erode your progress.

The Medication-Free Approach with the Right Therapist

Taking a pill can be a tempting option to push away your issues and symptoms, but emotional conditions are often too complicated to be fixed by a drug. Talking to a therapist often frees you from the use of medications, which can add to your treatment cost (unless you are covered by insurance) and can cause side effects. In addition, there are things that medications cannot address, such as resolution of issues and how to define, set, and achieve your wellness and life goals.

Though talking can make past pain and fears resurface, it has long-term benefits, if you work with an experienced therapist independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services (CCS) in Fuquay-Varina, NC. It is easy to form a good relationship with a CCS therapist or counselor because they are professional, proficient, and trustworthy. They can help you heal from your past trauma and pain and transform yourself and your life by being positive, whatever curveballs may come your way.


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Get Help from Carolina Counseling Services!

If you are looking for qualified therapists/counselors to help you understand your thoughts and feelings for a calmer, happier and fulfilled life, Carolina Counseling Services can help you.

We have contracted experienced and licensed counselors/therapists who are able to help you find resolution to your issues/problems in a private, secure and homey ambiance. Whoever you are - couples, families, adults, adolescents and children, as well as Military Dependents and Retirees – you can count on us for help.

  1. 1. On Your First Visit to Carolina Counseling Services - Fuquay–Varina, NC

  3. 2. NO NEED FOR A DR OR INSURANCE REFERRAL. JUST CALL US AND SCHEDULE YOUR APPT! If you have of these insurances, just come with your Insurance card and ID: Blue Cross Blue Shield , Tricare (Military Dependent or Retiree), Medicare.

  5. 3. CONVENIENTLY LOCATED: Find us close to you at Fuquay-Varina, NC. Our Main Office in Fayetteville, NC was established in 1994. We have opened this office in Fuquay –Varina, for your convenience!

  7. 4. INSURANCES: Blue Cross Blue Shield, Medicare, and all Tricare (prime, extra and standard) Not listed? Call us!

  9. 5. CONFIDENTIALITY AND PRIVACY are our outmost concern. With Carolina Counseling Services – Fuquay-Varina, NC, your records are well-guarded and your rights are respected by abiding by the HIPAA laws and always using appropriately secure encrypted tools.

  11. 6. REQUESTING AN APPOINTMENT IS EASY. Call us (919) 762-3185 for your first appointment.

Our mission is to contract with licensed therapists/psychologists who are client centered/focused, who are caring, friendly and helpful and who are able and willing to help you resolve you/your family issues. We care about ensuring those who need assistance, get it from those who are best qualified to give it. It is our pleasure to assist you in finding the right fit.

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Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services

Counties: Wake County NC, Johnston County NC, Chatham County NC

Cities: Fuquay-Varina NC, Raleigh NC, Cary NC, Holly Springs NC, Angier NC, Duncan NC, Chalybeate Springs NC, Apex NC, Feltonville NC, Garner NC, New Hill NC, Clayton NC, Kennebec NC, Willow Springs NC, Cokesbury NC, Brickhaven NC, Lillington NC, Buies Creek NC

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Carolina Counseling Services - Fuquay-Varina, NC
602 E. Academy St. Ste. 103
Fuquay-Varina, NC 27526



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FAST FACTS ABOUT COUNSELING AND Carolina Counseling Services Fuquay-Varina, NC

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Is counseling right for me??

Is confiding to your trusted family and friends as good as talking to a professional counselor? Will their judgment be unprejudiced and fair to you and everyone concerned?

Can you trust them to keep matters private to avoid making the conflicts more complex? Are they prepared to give you insightful solutions to resolve conflicts and to make you feel better?

While family and friends are willing to listen and have the best intentions, staying impartial may be hard if they have a close relationship with the people involved in your conflicts. Even when your distress is not caused by anyone in the family, their hands may be tied because they are not able to offer intuitive solutions.

Your best shot is an experienced and licensed therapist from Carolina Counseling Services Fuquay-Varina, NC who is the right fit to help you. Call now 919-762-3185 so you can start feeling better again.

  1. 1. Carolina Counseling Services Fuquay-Varina, NC offers a broad range of counseling services. For your emotional wellbeing, call us today.
  2. 2. We understand if you are apprehensive about seeing a therapist. Many people feel this way until they come to the first session. Afterwards, there is relief and many wonder why they waited so long!
  3. 3. A busy schedule should not prevent you from seeking counseling. We at Carolina Counseling Services Fuquay-Varina, NC understand; call us and we will try to schedule your appointment on a time or day you are free…we will do our best to accommodate your schedule.
  4. 4. Do you feel unwell, but your doctor says there’s nothing wrong with your health? Come to Carolina Counseling Services Fuquay-Varina, NC; let’s try to discern the reason and work towards resolution so you will be able to enjoy a more fulfilled life.
  5. 5. Life can be like a roller coaster ride. If it has no thrilling “ups” and it is just a flat ride through and through, call Carolina Counseling Services Fuquay-Varina, NC so we can help you experience those good times again!
  6. 6. Don’t be deterred by a “Doctor’s Referral”; most insurances don’t need one. To be certain, call us at 919-762-3185 and we will let you know and guide you through setting up your appt.
  7. 7. Carolina Counseling Services Fuquay-Varina, NC has experienced and licensed counselors you can trust; look for the one right for you. You know you have the best fit when you start feeling better after your first meeting and consultation.
  8. 8. Do you want to make sure your insurance will pay for your counseling? Call us and we will let you know for certain. We will even verify your insurance. Why wait? Call now!
  9. 9. Carolina Counseling Services safeguards the confidentiality of your records and privacy of your sessions. This will always be important to us!
  10. 10. Coming to Carolina Counseling Services Fuquay-Varina, NC is like coming home; it has a soothing ambiance, friendly therapists, every aspect invoking trust and positivity. We look forward to working with you. Call right now for your appointment!

Does Your Child Need Counseling?

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Just like adults, children also experience difficulties while growing up. They may feel stress in school. They can be bullied by their siblings or their playmates. They may experience grief after losing a pet or after moving into a new neighborhood. They can be confused because of conflicts in the family.

With their difficulty to express their thoughts and feelings, they may act them out in ways that you don’t understand. Ignoring or trivializing these behaviors may impact their development and delaying their milestones. When these happen, they would benefit from counseling.

When to Seek Professional Help

It is never easy to accept that one’s child needs counseling, despite the glaring signs of their state of emotional health. Yet, for the health of your child, it is important to overcome your own despair, fears and frustration. It will be helpful to bring your child to an experienced counselor who can assess the symptoms, particularly the ones disrupting their day-to-day life or delaying their developmental milestones.

Consider taking your child to a counselor when there are certain life events that are too distressing and complicated for them to handle on their own or when they exhibit red flag behaviors. For instance, if they or someone they love has been diagnosed with a grim condition or if they show risky behaviors – self-harm, hostility, and aggression.

Taking Action

Your child may feel confused when they experience something they don’t understand, causing them to react in ways that may be irregular. Waiting out before taking your child to a professional may pay off as they grow out of what’s bothering them – new school/neighborhood, a new baby in the family or conflict in the family.

Waiting out may not, however, be advisable under certain consequences - when the emotional condition is delaying the child’s attainment of their milestones, when there is genetic predisposition in the family for emotional disorders, or if it can seriously impact their health. To save your child’s life and future, there are times when you have to take action with urgency and promptness.

Raising Your Child with Help

Growing up, your child/children will experience challenges and encounter obstacles. They can benefit tremendously from counseling. While no one can replace you in their hearts, the professional counselors independently contracted with Carolina Counseling Services in Fuquay-Varina, NC can be of great help.

All parents need help to raise their children well. In fact, the best parents are those who recognize/acknowledge that they need help to best raise them. You are not relinquishing your responsibilities as a parent when you seek assistance from Carolina Counseling Services in Fuquay-Varina. Seeking help is not a sign of weakness. Rather, it is reflection of your strength and great love for your child.

Building a Stronger and Happier Marriage with Counseling

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It is a common foregone conclusion that a couple seeing a counselor has a marriage that’s “on the rocks.” True? Not always.

People ahead of their time understand that marriage counseling can work in a constructive way. It is just like doing a “performance review.” Just like you would assess your performance at work to improve your skills and enjoy better relationships in the workplace, you would want to do the same thing in the most important relationship in your life – your marriage.

Revisiting the Recent Events

It is common for couples to avoid conflicts by simply ignoring the causes, thinking that there can be peace that way. On the other hand, avoiding the confrontation may heighten the couple’s emotions in time, leading to a possibly more intense release of bottled sentiments.

One way to peacefully handle differences that may breed conflicts is by regularly going over your crisis points as a couple with the help of a professional/experienced counselor. Without resolving the hovering issues, these crisis points can make your marriage shaky. Having an expert - a marriage counselor - to assist you can ease the tension when these issues are put out in the open to be resolved.

Don’t wait too long!

One common mistake that couples do is waiting too long before seeing a marriage counselor. Merely sweeping issues and hurtful confrontations “under the rug” can be unhealthy for the relationship. These unresolved issues can grow over time, until either one or both become extremely distressed, or suffer emotional/behavioral issues such as depression, anxiety, substance abuse, insomnia, mood swings, etc. Resolving marital conflicts is important. Your meetings with the counselor can provide you the opportunity to revisit the experience and resolve the issues.

The good news is that most insurances WILL pay for the sessions needed to resolve these issues so you can enjoy your marriage and work together for a happy future.

Building Stronger and Happier Marriage

Since it is constant conflict that can cause loving relationships to break apart, couples who want to have a strong and happy marriage must find a way to minimize disagreements and to lighten their impact. Seeing a marriage counselor is like visiting a dentist; a regular checkup can prevent petty issues from getting bigger and causing serious damage.

The belief that marriage counseling is only for troubled marriages is a myth. Marriage counseling is not only sought to repair a damaged relationship, but also to make one’s marriage better. It is a valuable and practical strategy to embrace, if you wish your marriage well. If you wish to have a counselor to help build a stronger and happier marriage for you and your spouse, call Carolina Counseling Services in Fuquay-Varina, NC for an appointment.

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View the independently contracted Caring, Licensed Therapists. Who is the Best Fit for you?

  • Kimberly Tran, PhD, HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Individuals, Couples, anxiety, PTSD, trauma (adults who have experienced childhood physical, emotional and/or sexual abuse, domestic violence, Wounded Warrior) grief and loss, relationship issues, addiction, recovery, co-occuring substance abuse, couple/marital concerns, personality disorders, mood disorders.
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare (to include Tricare Prime), Medicare and cash
    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC
  • Laura Coyle, PhD, HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Adolescents, Couples, Individuals, Family, anxiety, persistent sadness and depression, mood swings, responses to trauma, grief, behavioral concerns, autism spectrum disorders, attention difficulties, excessive procrastination, challenges related to physical health concerns, relational conflicts, problematic alcohol or drug use, problematic eating patterns, communication difficulties, Affirmative and Multiculturally Competent Counseling, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare (to include Tricare Prime) Medicare and cash
    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC
  • Teshia Utley-McKoy, MS, LPC

    Specializes in: (Ages 4+) Children, Adolescents, Individuals, Marriage and Couples counseling, Anxiety issues, Parent-child relational issues, Spirituality, Anger and Behavior Management, ADHD, ODD, PTSD Trauma, Self-Esteem, Depression, Grief and Loss, Adjustment and Transitional Issues, Coping Skills, Christian counseling.
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare (to include Tricare Prime), HSA/FSA and cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC
  • Julie Stoneham, MSW, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Teens, Individuals, Couples, Depression, Anxiety, Self-esteem , Grief and Loss, Communication Difficulties, Attention Deficit, Oppositional Defiance, Anger Problems, Post Traumatic Stress , Trauma Recovery, Dissociation , Bipolar Disorder, Coping with Medical Concerns, Self-harming Behavior, Substance use, Parenting Concerns, Relationship Issues, Life Transitions, Spirituality.
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, NCHC, cash, HRA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC

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Marriage - Meeting the Challenges of Life Transitions

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From the time they decide to be together and build a family, couples go through countless transitions. For example, children are born; they grow up and move away.

It is not unusual for couples to experience feelings of dissatisfaction and loneliness as these life changes take place. When couples go through life’s transitions, they often need help to face these transitions in a positive way.

Early Transitions

Couples go through many transitions in their early years together. For example, the birth of the first child is primarily a joyous and much anticipated occasion. However, it is also a major transition that opens up an unexpected snag in a once exclusive relationship.

Some men may feel that the new baby has lessened the love and attention due them, while some women may feel that they are not getting the care and assistance they need from their husbands or partners – particularly during the first few months of motherhood. Some women even experience depression at this point.

Between the first and the fifteenth year of a couple’s life together, several other transitions take place. Moving to a different address, career promotions, new jobs, seeing children metamorphose into adolescents – all these represent major adjustments for couples.

During this busy time, both men and women can get so caught up in the business of raising their children they miss out on taking care of themselves and each other.

Midlife Transitions

As couples reach their forties, they may find themselves wondering where the years have gone and how much time they have left to reach the goals they set earlier in their lives. Not all couples deal with this phase of married life graciously, and quite a few fall prey to what is popularly referred to as the “midlife crisis”.

It is as if both men and women want to take full advantage of their remaining youth, and it can be a critical time for people who may need to affirm the value of staying together.

The Empty Nest

Couples experience a major transition when the children are all grown up and have moved away, and the time for retirement has come. For some couples, this is a time when they are finally free to travel and pursue new interests.

However, there are couples who do not know what to do with all the idle hours they now have. Some feel a sense of loss that a major part of their life has ended, and many find it is difficult to adjust to the constant presence of their spouse or partner.

Navigating Through Transitions

Professional help will enable couples to navigate through transitions with a better understanding of themselves and the changes that confront them. If you are going through a transition today, Carolina Counseling Services Fuquay-Varina can give you the counseling you need to handle transitions in a fulfilling way as a couple and as individuals.

What You Should Know About Depression and Counseling

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Depression is a serious health issue the world over. According to the 2010 report of the World Health Organization (WHO), it is the most common, and the weightiest cause of disability among emotional and behavioral disorders in the United States. This accounts for about 6.7 percent of the adult population or 15.7 million Americans in 2014 (National Institute of Mental Health). Children and adolescents are not spared with one in 33 children and one in eight teens having clinical depression (Center for Mental Health Services, U.S. Dept. of Health and Human Services, 1996).

Depression: What is it?

Clinical or major depression can make you feel extremely sad and that life isn’t worth living anymore. It can swamp your mind with a lot of negative thoughts, overwhelming you with unpleasant emotions – hopelessness, guilt, hurt, indifference, lethargy, etc. It can cause you to experience anhedonia or loss of pleasure. In extreme cases, it can significantly reduce your functionality.

There are several factors that may cause depression, including genetics and stressful or traumatic life transition. It is also widely held among emotional health experts that it can be influenced by the levels of certain chemicals in the brain (neurotransmitters), such as serotonin and dopamine.

Are You (or Your Child) Depressed

Grief, loneliness and becoming emotionally overwhelmed are not legitimate symptoms of depression. These are feelings that normal and emotionally healthy people experience. These manifestations may be considered as depressive symptoms only when the feelings are excessive, disrupting your normal life, and/or hovering for an extended period of time (longer than two weeks).

The symptoms may also vary between individuals. Some of the common signs and symptoms include: feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness, changed sleeping and eating patterns leading to weight loss or gain, difficulty focusing in school or work, and other negative feelings - anxiety, irritability, moodiness or anger. Some may even experience physical pain, even when the doctors can‘t seem to find anything wrong with them.

Depression is Treatable

The best thing that you can do when you suspect you have depression is to seek treatment. Remember that this condition is highly treatable, especially with help from a therapist who is a right fit. To find professional help, call Carolina Counseling Service in Fuquay-Varina, NC.

Life is beautiful, but you may not realize that when you are gripped with depression. Experience the beauty of life by turning the table on depression. With the help of an independently contracted therapist with CCS, you have the power to turn off depression for good.

The Positive Force of Counseling: Transforming Negative Experiences

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Sometimes life throws an unexpected curveball in your direction. Everyone’s curveballs are different: Your romantic relationship just ended. You didn’t get that promotion. A family member is diagnosed with an illness. Your car needs a major repair. These negative experiences can happen at any time and make you want to raise your hands in surrender.

When you’re distressed by unfortunate events, you may become inclined to close yourself off to the world, dwell on your pain and unhappiness, and lose interest in potentially rewarding life experiences. Doing this will not make the negative emotions dissipate. Instead, you need to be open, honest, and willing to receive help from a professional to transform your negative experiences into positive realizations.

Cultivating Self-Esteem despite Body Image Issues

In a society that overvalues body image, there’s the tendency to compare yourself with people around you and in the process lose sight of your own individuality. It is difficult not to be affected by the standard of what is ideal and perfect, which may also distort your self-image.

Contributing to your body image issues may be negative experiences and troubled relationships that make you feel ashamed and deficient. Overwhelming feelings of being worthless, unloved, and inadequate may lead you to withdraw from others as an attempt to hide your perceived flaws.

With the help of a supportive counselor, you will be guided to take a hard look at yourself to discover what negative self-beliefs keep your self-esteem trapped. Counseling can help you to see and value yourself more so you can start to feel good even when experiencing life’s knocks and blows. When you learn to appreciate your own uniqueness, you can allow yourself to be more realistic in setting your goals.

Channeling Teen Anger into Creativity

It is normal for people to experience angry outbursts from time to time. In the case of some teens and adolescents, however, they are angry most of the time even without any provocation. This common disorder in young people is called intermittent and explosive anger.

When teen anger has turned extreme, destructive, and uncontrollable, it may be time to consider counseling as a positive way to resolve the negative feeling. With counseling tools, the anger can be unleashed to dig deeper into the roots of the issues and find a solution, which is sometimes not possible when one is happy. Through counseling, anger can be ultimately channeled into something creative.

Harnessing Anxiety into Self-Confidence

There’s nothing wrong with feeling afraid, worried, or uneasy if there’s a reason for it. However, when your fears become obsessive and prevent you from performing normal tasks, your fear has turned into anxiety. Anxiety is ranked as the number one psychological health concern, and can negatively impact your general well-being as you excessively worry about almost everything.

Anxiety is a built-in “fight or flight” human response to any perceived threat. While it’s necessary for protection, it is also an important tool for strategizing. Counseling can help you transform your anxiety into a defense mechanism for resilience. This kind of attitude allows you to trust your instinct to face the challenge, conquer your fears, and ultimately propel you into action with greater confidence.

Learning Lessons from Life’s Adversities

There are times when adversity can cause extreme sadness or make you constantly angry, depressed, anxious, etc. Often, life-threatening problems can make you struggle with various emotions. Don’t underestimate the impact of being “emotionally overwhelmed,” when you can’t think or act clearly because you feel you have so many things going on simultaneously.

If you feel you’re being overpowered by emotions such as excessive fear and worry, melancholy, and resentment, it is beneficial to seek counseling. The positive force of counseling can help you become stronger in facing life’s greatest challenges and transform them into opportunities for personal growth and development. Counseling provides a new perspective to help you rise up from difficulties and setbacks.

Transforming Grief

It is always acceptable to grieve when you lose something or someone significant in life, whether it is a parent, spouse, child, friend, or pet. Grief often comes with sadness, shock, regret, guilt, anger, and other powerful emotions. There are signs, however, that should serve as red flags that professional intervention is warranted. It is important to see a therapist when the symptoms of grief have become overwhelming and are preventing you from moving forward.

Counseling not only assists you in transforming grief into motivation, but is a great help in realizing that you still have other important people or things to feel grateful about. With the help of a credible counselor, your overwhelming loss can be transformed into a catalyst for deep, life-affirming gratitude.

Finding the Right Therapist

It takes a lot of courage to get help when confronted with psychological or emotional issues. It’s a big step to seek counseling, and even more so to find the right therapist whom you can trust with your innermost thoughts and feelings.

At Carolina Counseling Services in Fuquay-Varina, NC, there are independently contracted counselors who can work with you to help transform your negative experiences into positive ones. Just make a call to schedule an appointment, and start turning your life around.

Psychobabble Explained in Layman’s Terms

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Data from the American Psychological Association reveals that about 25 percent of all American adults are currently experiencing a psychological, emotional, or behavioral condition. The report also suggests that nearly 50 percent of US adults will develop at least one such condition during their lifetimes. This comes as no surprise, given the fact that each of us may feel overwhelmed at some time in our lives.

When life gets challenging and seems beyond your control, you’re most likely to need outside help from a trained, licensed professional who can work with you through your difficulties. Whether it’s your life, child, family, relationship, or career at stake, you need to be savvy about how to choose a therapist that is the right fit for you.

Your initial search for counselors or therapists may confront you with multiple titles and labels, such as “counselor/therapist,” “psychiatrist,” “psychologist,” “social worker,” etc. The different acronyms that follow people’s names, such as LCSW, LPC, HS-P, MD, MS, MSW, and PhD, not to mention all the labels, may also be confusing for you. The task of finding someone who can help becomes complicated and daunting.

The Search for Gold in a Haystack of Mental Health Professionals

In the world of mental health services, the different professions include counselor/therapist, behavioral health provider, family therapist, mental health provider, marriage counselor, psychologist, and psychiatrist, among others. They are collectively known as “mental health counselors.” It’s true that all these professionals have the credentials to address psychological, emotional, or behavioral issues. In delivering the required service, however, each type brings different training, experience, and insights to the table.

At Carolina Counseling Services in Fuquay-Varina, NC, the independently contracted counselors aren’t particular about what title you use for them. For them, it is more important for people to understand that they provide assistance in a safe, caring, and nonjudgmental setting. Your search for a counselor will yield the best results if you understand some specific differences that may be helpful when it’s time to make a decision.

Understanding Psychobabble

To begin with, practitioners will want to be sure the service they offer is appropriate for you. There is much overlap between counseling and psychotherapy.

Counseling, also called “talk therapy,” is a conversation or series of conversations that focuses on a specific problem and how to address it. There is no advice given; instead, a counselor guides and supports clients in discovering their own answers.

On the other hand, psychotherapy is based on a healing relationship that a health care provider establishes with a client. It considers overall patterns and recurring issues instead of concentrating on individual problems. It aims to resolve what fuels ongoing complaints; thus, psychotherapy tries to explore the past and how it impacts the present. It does not matter whether you choose counseling or psychotherapy. What is more important is finding a competent mental health care provider who is a good fit.

Two other terms often used interchangeably are “mental health” and “behavioral health.” Do they really mean the same thing? Although both of them refer to the health of the brain, and, in some cases, involve the same treatments, there is a subtle distinction. The word “mental” has something to do with how one thinks, while the word “behavioral” is about the way a person acts. Recently, many have begun using the term “behavioral health” due to the strong stigma associated with “mental health problems.” People find it more acceptable to seek relief in facilities for behavioral health without being labeled “crazy.”

Getting to Know the Professionals Up Close

Psychiatrists: These professional doctors specialize in the appropriate diagnosis and treatment of psychiatric conditions. They have medical training and are licensed to prescribe drugs. Due to the shortage of psychiatrists in the state of NC, the first session with one will usually last 30 minutes to an hour, and the succeeding sessions will usually be shorter, lasting just enough time to manage a client’s psychotropic medications, such as antidepressants and anti-anxiety drugs.

Psychologists: These experts have a doctoral degree (PhD or PsyD) in psychology, which takes five to seven years of education after receiving their bachelor’s degree. To be licensed psychologists, they must have done at least two years of supervised work and successfully passed a national exam. However, they cannot prescribe medicine in NC. Psychologists with a PhD may specialize in clinical practice, research, training, or assessment. Those with a PsyD have primary training in counseling, psychotherapy, and psychological testing.

Licensed Clinical Social Workers (LCSW): These are specialists with a master’s in social work who have fulfilled the licensing requirements of the state where they practice, including two years of supervised work under an LCSW and passing the very extensive licensure exam. LCSWs work to provide social services in health-related settings, including counseling for individuals, couples, families, and groups.

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists (LMFT) are professionals with graduate training in marriage and family therapy. Prior to taking the state licensing exam, LMFTs must have at least two years of clinical experience. These specialists provide help in areas that involve marriage, couples, and family systems.

Licensed Professional Counselors (LPC) are counselors with either a master’s or doctorate in counseling and 3,000 hours of post-master’s experience. They have passed the national counseling exam and are licensed or certified to diagnose and treat psychological and emotional issues. LPCs work independently with all types of people.

Whom Should You Make an Appointment to See?

Making the decision to seek help can be tough, and so is choosing whom to see. Do you go to a psychiatrist or a psychologist? The answer to this question lies in what issues you’re facing. If you’re experiencing difficulties facing day-to-day challenges, or if a major life change has turned your world upside down, it may be beneficial to see a licensed social worker or a counselor. Alternatively, if your concern is an emotional condition such as ADHD or PTSD, you may consider scheduling an appointment with a psychologist. There are also countless reasons to see a professional other than experiencing emotional turmoil. You may want to consult a therapist about self-improvement, achieving a healthy relationship, better understanding your own thoughts and behavior, etc. If you want things to get better, nothing can be more rewarding than working with a therapist.

It is vital to take note of the signs that you need help and support from an unbiased professional. When you notice one or more of these signs, don’t hesitate to contact Carolina Counseling Services in Fuquay-Varina, NC. The friendly staff will refer you to an independently contracted counselor with an appropriate treatment plan for your unique needs. Just make a call to request an appointment.