Conflict happens in even the very best marriages. Disagreements can be caused by many reasons, ranging from finances to raising kids. Conflict isn’t inherently bad, it is a natural part of any relationship. After all, you can’t expect two people with different attitudes, principles, beliefs etc. to agree on everything all the time. While conflict is to be expected, it doesn’t have to be unhealthy. If conflict is negatively impacting you and your relationship, therapy can help.

When Conflict Becomes Unhealthy

How each of you address and interpret relationship conflict can shape how you approach communication and compromise.

If you perceive conflict as dangerous or something to fear, it can leave you feeling powerless or wanting to avoid conflict. It can be difficult to confront disagreements if you find yourself either shutting down or waiting until you are so angry you explode when trying to express yourself.

When we wait too long to address concerns they can begin to turn into resentments which can be more difficult to work through. Resentment can leave us feeling bitter and angry, turning conflict into a “win or lose” game where we may lash out and do what is needed to “win”. This can cause a great deal of damage to your relationship.

Processing emotions can be complicated. When we fail to understand our own needs, we can’t effectively communicate what we are feeling and needing. This can make conflict resolution feel next to impossible.

Resolving Differences the Healthy Way

Conflict is inevitable and it isn’t a bad thing. According to The University of Oklahoma, “Conflict provides an opportunity to address misunderstandings head-on. Many conflicts stem from miscommunications or differing interpretations of situations. As partners navigate conflicts together, they can learn from each other and grow individually and as a relationship.”

Unfortunately resolving conflicts can be tricky. Few couples are lucky enough to have the skills to effectively communicate and resolve conflicts on their own. Counseling is a great way to identify what is at the root of your conflict and find healthy ways to move forward together.

The Art of Resolving Conflict

Relationship conflict can be overwhelming and it can be difficult to find resolution, help from a licensed therapist can help. Carolina Counseling Services in Fuquay-Varina, NC contracts with skilled licensed therapists who can help.

Don’t let conflict ruin your relationship. Counseling can provide a supportive environment where you can process your feelings and express your needs. You can learn valuable communication skills to help in many different life areas, including in your relationships. Call CCS today to schedule your first appointment.

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