Self-esteem and self-worth are difficult areas to navigate at any age. While we begin to develop our self-esteem at a young age, it will change over time. The way we view ourselves can be impacted by many things, such as the messages we receive by those closest to us and the world around us. How you talk to yourself can make a big difference in how you view yourself. If you are an adult struggling with low self-esteem you aren’t alone. 

What is Self-Esteem?

The American Psychological Association states that self-esteem is “the degree to which the qualities and characteristics contained in one’s self-concept are perceived to be positive. It reflects a person’s physical self-image, view of their accomplishments and capabilities, and values and perceived success in living up to them, as well as the ways in which others view and respond to that person. The more positive the cumulative perception of these qualities and characteristics, the higher one’s self-esteem. A reasonably high degree of self-esteem is considered an important ingredient of mental health, whereas low self-esteem and feelings of worthlessness are common depressive symptoms” 

What this means is that self-esteem is a reflection of how we view ourselves and how we feel others view us as well. Self-esteem can change and fluctuate throughout our lives and when it is low it can negatively impact us. The good news is you have control over how you view yourself. You can improve your self-esteem. Therapy can help. 

The Indicators of Low Self-Esteem

You may be wondering about your self-esteem. Is it at a healthy level, or are you struggling with low self-esteem. 

Low self-esteem often accompanies:

• • Codependency
  • Social anxiety
  • General anxiety
  • Shame
  • Depression
  • Inadequacy
  • Powerlessness
  • Physical, emotional, or sexual abuse
  • Perfectionism

• “Workaholism”

Other possible indications include:

• Difficulty in trusting your opinions and decisions
• Tendency to follow rather than lead
• Constantly expecting to lose or be at the bottom
• Apprehensive of changes and difficulties
• Criticizing yourself, but lenient with others
• Excessive worry
• Overachieving and underachieving

If any of the above sounds familiar, you may benefit from counseling to help improve your self-esteem. 

How Can You Improve Your Self-Esteem

You have the power to improve your self-esteem. We don’t have control over how others view us but we absolutely have control over how we view ourselves. Our self-esteem is constantly evolving and changing, help it change for the better with counseling. 

Therapy can help you to explore where your low self-esteem stems from and challenge negative narratives that are keeping you feeling this way. You can learn valuable skills to help you improve the way you talk to yourself and view yourself. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) can help with this. 

Find the therapist that is right for you, contracted with CCS in Fuquay-Varina. Call today to schedule your first appointment! Online counseling sessions are also available, making getting the support you deserve easier than ever before!