No one goes into a marriage expecting to be hurt. Social media and Hollywood show us images of perfect couples and happily ever after. Many expect this when they get married. While every couple has its challenges and struggles, constant hurt has no place in a healthy relationship. If you are experiencing hurt and pain in your relationship it may be time to consider couples or marriage counseling. 

The Cycle of Hurt

Unfortunately, many couples are caught up in the unproductive cycle of hurt because they struggle to address the causes and find resolution. It can be difficult to express your feelings, and many choose to stuff their emotions rather than communicate. Communication is complicated, even when we know we need to it is difficult. 

Instead of communicating, many will withdraw from their partner and begin to harbor resentment. Resentment has no place in a healthy relationship; however, it is present in many. You may begin to find yourself holding grudges and feeling unable to resolve conflicts.

A more troubling reason why some marriages dissolve is the refusal to seek help. If you find your relationship is stuck in a repeated cycle of hurt, seeking a credible marriage counselor can make a world of difference. Early intervention is often key.

Healing the Hurt

People see their primary health provider for an ache or a pain that does not go away. If your marriage is hurting and you know it needs work, turn to a professional marriage counselor.

Unfortunately, many think of marriage counseling or couples counseling as a last resort. Every couple can benefit from improved communication and conflict resolution skills. Waiting until you feel you have no options may make progress more difficult. While healing is always possible, doing something sooner rather than later is often in your best interest. 

Carolina Counseling Services – Fuquay-Varina, NC contracts with licensed marriage counselors and couples therapists. You can find the therapist that is right for you with CCS. Call today to find your new counselor.