Everyone has gone through big life changes. They can be predictable, such as marriage or relocating to a new place, or unpredictable, such as the illness, injury, or death of a loved one. When a major change happens, transition naturally follows, often requiring you to move on and begin something new.

An important life transition closes one chapter and begins a new one. It can mean longing for how things were before, even when changes are positive. It is often difficult, and may be accompanied by intense feelings of fear, doubt, uncertainty, and resistance. Small changes may be easier to overcome, but bigger types of change may be more difficult to navigate. 

Experiencing Life Changes

Transitions in life can be passages to a new beginning or perspective. In every transition, there is the need to let go of an old belief or practice and replace it with something new. Entering into a new world can be anxiety-provoking because it often tests your ability to adjust. This period is often marked by discomfort and disconnection from your environment and even from yourself.

It’s natural to feel anxious when entering the unknown or unfamiliar, but if you’re trapped in this phase, the overwhelming feelings may send you spinning. Some changes, such as a breakup or death of a loved one, involve grief and loss. The anxiety and trauma of these types of experiences may lead to drug or alcohol use as a way of numbing or avoiding difficult feelings. Whatever the cause, a transition can be an excellent opportunity to seek counseling to help you take stock of your life and enter a new chapter with less pain and resistance.

Taking on the Challenge Life Transitions

Transitions are difficult because there is always the conscious or unconscious tendency to avoid change. The basic human self-preservation instinct is to resist anything new or unfamiliar. Even positive changes like a promotion, planned pregnancy, or winning the lottery can cause stress. Simply put, what is unknown can make you uncomfortable.

Life may not always be fair, but sometimes, unexpected good comes out of an overwhelming experience. Change cannot be avoided and life does go on. Major life transitions can be difficult and frightening, but ignoring or resisting can create even more distress. You don’t have to face change alone, counseling can help. 

Whether it is a positive or negative change, you deserve a listening ear, a supportive hand, and a safe environment to help you accept it and move forward. At Carolina Counseling Services – Fuquay-Varina, NC, you can find a contracted, licensed counselor or therapist that is right for you. Call today to schedule your first appointment. Online counseling and in person sessions are available!

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