The First Steps to Resolving Your Child’s Anger

Anger is a normal human emotion that all people, even children, feel at one time or another. It is common for children to express anger in the form of outbursts. Since anger is a common and natural feeling, it is often dismissed. Because of this, it can be difficult to know when this emotion is becoming problematic.

If you have a child who OFTEN expresses their anger in the forms of tantrums, outbursts or aggression, be aware that it can be a symptom of something more. If this is the case, love and understanding may not be all that is needed to improve your child’s behavior. Counseling can help. 

Understanding Anger in Children

Anger is human nature, an instinct that people feel as a response to pain or a perceived threat. It is a fight mechanism that is intended to protect oneself. When the threat or danger, however, is wrongly perceived or misinterpreted, anger may appear like it is illogical, and even at times excessive.

Children are more likely to get angry and more often because they are not as equipped as adults in interpreting external triggers. It can actually be “normal” for children to have as many as nine tantrums per week according to Yale Medicine! They also have less control over the ways they express their anger or frustration. Understanding what triggers outbursts is important. When your child’s anger is frequent and intense it may be time to seek professional intervention.

When Is It Time to See a Therapist?

As the old saying goes, what causes problems is a problem. If your child’s anger is impacting the way they live their life or causing problems for them it’s worth looking into. Some additional signs may include; 

  • Frequent and intense arguing
  • Refusing to comply with directions or requests
  • Refusing to follow rules
  • Resentment
  • Spiteful behavior
  • Refusal to cooperate at school and/or home
  • Ignoring adults or authority figures 

Anger can be an indicator of behavioral health concerns as well such as depression, anxiety, ADHD etc. You know your child better than anyone, if you are concerned you deserve support. 

Taking The First Step

If you are concerned about your child’s anger, know that you aren’t alone. Working with a skilled child therapist can make a world of difference. When  you find the therapist that is right for you and your child you can begin to figure out what their triggers are and they can begin learning healthier ways to react and cope with intense emotions. 

Carolina Counseling Services in Fuquay-Varina, North Carolina contracts with skilled therapists. Call CCS today to schedule your child’s first appointment. Online appointments are also available, making getting the care you need and deserve easier than ever before!

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