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Readjusting, Reconnecting, and Reintegrating: The Transitions for Retired Veterans and Their Families

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Readjusting, Reconnecting, and Reintegrating:

The Transitions for Retired Veterans and Their Families

 

You have finally retired. This may be a day you have eagerly looked forward to because it may mean being able to live a normal life as a civilian. It may mean being able to spend time with your loved ones. It may mean no more worrying about the risks of war, being deployed or moving yet to another base.

However, the transition to a civilian life may be different from what you expected; it can have its own challenges that may require you to readjust, reconnect and reintegrate. This may not come easy to your family either. You don’t have to struggle on your own. You can reach out for understanding and support.

 

Caught Between Two Cultures

Moving back to civilian life can be an experience most similar to entering the military. You may feel caught between two cultures – the vaguely familiar civilian life and the even more familiar military life. This time around, you are leaving the order and structure of the military life to return to the civilian life you may have once had. The transition may give you uncomfortable feelings, it can seem different, possibly causing you to feel exposed or even unstable.

 

The Home and Community

Family members may be used to doing things without you. Your spouse and children may pursue their lives like you are not there, not because they disrespect you or you are not important to them, but possibly because they may have become accustomed to not having you present. It may be the same case outside of your home. You may not understand the “rules of the game” or have difficulty “blending in” possibly due to the transitions you are making. You may also notice that others are not fully able to relate to you in turn.

Focusing on your slighted feelings, or on other’s hurts can cause misunderstandings and even conflicts. To resolve issues and save your relationships, you may want to work on readjusting, reconnecting and reintegrating.

 

Taking the Next Step: Readjusting, Reconnecting, and Reintegrating

Despite the imposed order, structure and the risks inherent to the military, you may have grown accustomed to them. In transitioning back to civilian life, you may unconsciously look for those factors that previously defined your former life. To make the transition, you may find yourself needing to readjust and respond differently to your new environment. By reconnecting you may be able to restore and resume your old roles and create new ones with little conflict. Reintegrating can help you to better fit into your family’s structure and into the community as a whole more smoothly.

Despite supportive family and friends, going through all these processes – readjusting, reconnecting and reintegrating – may not be easy. If these transitions are getting in the way of you having a happy civilian life you may want to reach out and consult with a professional. Call Carolina Counseling Services – Fuquay-Varina, NC. Licensed, independently contracted therapists are looking forward to teaming with you to win this battle long after the last bullet has been fired, and to assist you in feeling as if “you are truly home.”

 

We can Help! Call NOW!

 

Confidential / Private Sessions

Carolina Counseling Services – Fuquay-Varina, NC contracts with Licensed professional counselors/therapists/psychologists that provide a friendly, relaxed atmosphere. Carolina Counseling Services – Fuquay-Varina, NC contracts with friendly, caring therapists who assist adult individuals, couples, families, and children with resolving issues and getting back to enjoying their lives. Whether you are non-military or military, it will always been a pleasure to work with you. CCS and the independently contracted therapists are able and happy to assist active duty dependents and retired military and their families.

Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services – Fuquay-Varina, NC

Counties: Wake County NC

Cities: Fuquay-Varina NC, Holly Springs NC, Angier NC, Duncan NC, Chalybeate Springs NC, Feltonville NC, Garner NC, Kennebec NC, Willow Springs NC, Cokesbury NC, Holland NC, Wilbon NC

We are located at:

Carolina Counseling Services - Fuquay-Varina, NC
602 E. Academy St. Ste. 103
Fuquay-Varina, NC 27526

(919) 762-3185

602 E. Academy St. Suite 102

Fuquay-Varina, NC 27526

How Do I Set Up my FIRST Appointment?

  • Call: (919) 762-3185 (Fastest way to schedule)
  • Text: (910) 308-3291 (Reply will be via phone)
  • Click here and use our Contact Form (You must include your phone number, because replies will only be made by telephone to ensure security/privacy)
  • Call or Text for your New Patient Appointment Anytime!
  • Appointment scheduling for NEW clients: Mon-Fri 8:30am-5:15pm
  • New client appts may be scheduled when therapists have openings, which may include daytime, evenings and weekends.
  • Established/Standing Appointments are made directly with your therapist!
  • Referrals: MOST beneficiaries do NOT need a Referral!

View the independently contracted, Caring, Licensed Therapists. Who is the Best Fit for you?

  • Kimberly Tran, PhD, HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Individuals, Couples, anxiety, PTSD, trauma (adults who have experienced childhood physical, emotional and/or sexual abuse, domestic violence, Wounded Warrior) grief and loss, relationship issues, addiction, recovery, co-occuring substance abuse, couple/marital concerns, personality disorders, mood disorders.
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare (to include Tricare Prime), Medicare and cash
    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC

  • Laura Coyle, PhD, HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Adolescents, Couples, Individuals, Family, anxiety, persistent sadness and depression, mood swings, responses to trauma, grief, behavioral concerns, autism spectrum disorders, attention difficulties, excessive procrastination, challenges related to physical health concerns, relational conflicts, problematic alcohol or drug use, problematic eating patterns, communication difficulties, Affirmative and Multiculturally Competent Counseling, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare (to include Tricare Prime) Medicare and cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC

  • Teshia Utley-McKoy, MS, LPC

    Specializes in: (Ages 4+) Children, Adolescents, Individuals, Marriage and Couples counseling, Anxiety issues, Parent-child relational issues, Spirituality, Behavior Management, ADHD, ODD, PTSD Trauma, Self-Esteem, Depression, Grief and Loss, Adjustment and Transitional Issues, Coping Skills, Christian counseling.
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare (to include Tricare Prime), HSA/FSA and cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC

  • Diane M. McKnight, MA, MSW, LMSW, LCSW, ATR

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Teens, Adults, Couples, Trauma/PTSD, Adult Survivors of Abuse, Grief and Loss, LGBTQ Issues, Anxiety, Depression, Couples/Relationship Issues, Marriage Therapy, Major Life Transitions/Adjustments, Spirituality Issues
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, and cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC

  • Shanna N. Reyes, MS, LPC, LCAS-A

    Specializes in: (Ages 4+) Children, Adolescents, Adults, Couples and Families, Immigrants/Refugees/Disaster Survivors, PTSD, Trauma, Grief and Loss, Self-Esteem issues, Coping skills, Behavioral Modification, Parenting interventions, Anxiety, Depression, Adjustment issues, Bipolar and other Mood Disorders, LGBTQIA, Substance abuse, EMDR
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare Prime/Select, Cash, HSA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC

  • Rachel Macko, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adults, Individuals, Anxiety, Panic Disorder, OCD, Depression, Mood Disorders, PTSD, Trauma, Acute Stress Disorder, Chronic Pain/Health Concerns, Grief and Loss, Adjustment/Transitional Issues, Coping issues, Sleep Issues, Communication issues. Mindfulness Training and EMDR are available.
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Tricare Prime/Select, Cash, HSA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC
  • Sherry Horowitz, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 10+) Children, Adolescents/Teens, Adults, Individuals, Couples, Families, Communication Skills, Mood Disorders, Adjustment Disorders, ADHD, Couples/Marriage Counseling, Grief and Loss, Parenting Issues, Panic Attacks, Issues Related to Military Families, Self-Esteem, Sleep Issues, Positive Behavior Modification, Eating Disorders, Anxiety or Fears, Depression, Self-esteem, Body Image Issues, Grief and loss, ADHD in girls and women
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Tricare, HSA/FSA and cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC