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Marital Conflicts: Are They Affecting the Rest of Your Family?


Marital Conflicts: Are They Affecting the Rest of Your Family?


No matter how a couple loves each other, marital conflict is bound to arise. After all, when two people with different background, attitude and principles live together, differences of opinion can be expected. Conflict does not necessarily mean that a marriage is in trouble. Conflict can be a normal part of any relationship, and expressing one’s opinion can be a means of resolving an issue.

Despite the normalcy of conflict in a relationship, not all marital conflicts are created equal. Depending on the manner in which marital concerns are expressed, they can impact a couple’s children’s adjustment and development in relation to other dimensions within and outside the family context.


How Marital Conflicts Can Affect Children

The frequency and intensity of marital conflicts can have a direct effect on the level of stability for children in the home. Numerous studies have shown that children raised by couples who frequently argue have conduct problems, insecurities, issues with anger and/or experience academic difficulties. The intensity of arguments has been linked to higher levels of behavioral problems in children.

There may be little difference in the impact on children in relation to whether the arguments are witnessed by the children or whether the arguments occur in private. It can be possible that just hearing the subject of the disagreement can bring about high level of shame, fear of being dragged into the conflict and/or self-blame in the couple’s children. In fact, a number of studies have indicated situations in which parents will triangulate the issues with the children for the purpose of finding an ally against the other parent.

For the children, it can matter how the disagreements are resolved. A conflict with a high degree of resolution can greatly reduce distress levels in children, while an increase in their anger can be associated with unresolved conflicts. Children may be less likely to develop adequate interpersonal skills when their parents are seldom agreeing or modeling effective conflict management skills.


Ending Marital Conflicts on a Happy Note

Marital conflict, if not handled well, can reach the point when both you and your partner can be profoundly disappointed. You may even ask if you still want to remain married to a person who upsets you with intense arguments. It can be unsettling, and too often marital conflicts can progress from bad to worse.

If your marital conflicts are already beginning to affect your children, it may not be too late to change the course of your marriage and reroute in a more positive direction. You and your spouse may have the ability to make this happen. The likelihood of improving your marriage can may be increased exponentially by engaging in couples counseling to help restore the healthy aspects of your marriage.

Licensed, independently contracted therapists with special training and successful experiences in couple therapy are available. Therapy may be the kind of help you need to rebuild your relationship and even learn how to argue more effectively. Call the Carolina Counseling Services – Fuquay-Varina, NC office now to request an appointment. Don’t’ delay, begin to create an environment where you and your children can grow emotionally and psychologically healthy.


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Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services – Fuquay-Varina, NC

Counties: Wake County NC

Cities: Fuquay-Varina NC, Holly Springs NC, Angier NC, Duncan NC, Chalybeate Springs NC, Feltonville NC, Garner NC, Kennebec NC, Willow Springs NC, Cokesbury NC, Holland NC, Wilbon NC, Apex NC

Zip Codes: 27501, 27502, 27523, 27526, 27529, 27539, 27540, 27592

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Carolina Counseling Services - Fuquay-Varina, NC
602 E. Academy St. Ste. 103
Fuquay-Varina, NC 27526

(910) 624-6973

602 E. Academy St. Suite 102

Fuquay-Varina, NC 27526

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View the independently contracted, Caring, Licensed Therapists. Who is the Best Fit for you?

  • Kimberly Tran, PhD, HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Individuals, Couples, anxiety, PTSD, trauma (adults who have experienced childhood physical, emotional and/or sexual abuse, Wounded Warrior) grief and loss, relationship issues, addiction, recovery, co-occuring substance abuse, couple/marital concerns, personality disorders, mood disorders.
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare (to include Tricare Prime), Medicare and cash
    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC

  • Laura Coyle, PhD, HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Adolescents, Couples, Individuals, Family, anxiety, persistent sadness and depression, mood swings, responses to trauma, grief, behavioral concerns, autism spectrum disorders, attention difficulties, excessive procrastination, challenges related to physical health concerns, relational conflicts, problematic alcohol or drug use, problematic eating patterns, communication difficulties, Affirmative and Multiculturally Competent Counseling, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare (to include Tricare Prime) Medicare and cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC

  • Teshia Utley-McKoy, MS, LPC

    Specializes in: (Ages 4+) Children, Adolescents, Individuals, Marriage and Couples counseling, Anxiety issues, Parent-child relational issues, Spirituality, Behavior Management, ADHD, ODD, PTSD Trauma, Self-Esteem, Depression, Grief and Loss, Adjustment and Transitional Issues, Coping Skills, Christian counseling.
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare (to include Tricare Prime), HSA/FSA and cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC

  • Rachel Macko, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adults, Individuals, Anxiety, Panic Disorder, OCD, Depression, Mood Disorders, PTSD, Trauma, Acute Stress Disorder, Chronic Pain/Health Concerns, Grief and Loss, Adjustment/Transitional Issues, Coping issues, Sleep Issues, Communication issues. Mindfulness Training and EMDR are available.
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Tricare Prime/Select, Cash, HSA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC
  • Sherry Horowitz, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 10+) Children, Adolescents/Teens, Adults, Individuals, Couples, Families, Communication Skills, Mood Disorders, Adjustment Disorders, ADHD, Couples/Marriage Counseling, Grief and Loss, Parenting Issues, Panic Attacks, Issues Related to Military Families, Self-Esteem, Sleep Issues, Positive Behavior Modification, Eating Disorders, Anxiety or Fears, Depression, Self-esteem, Body Image Issues, Grief and loss, ADHD in girls and women
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Tricare, HSA/FSA and cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC