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Guilt and Shame: Letting Go of What May be Holding You Hostage


Guilt and Shame: Letting Go of What May be Holding You Hostage


One would be hard pressed to find someone who had never made a mistake. Making mistakes can be a good way to learn. You may hope for small mistakes while learning, though lessons that come with a high price are not easy to forget. The lessons you learn can make you a better person.

Guilt and shame may stop you from making the same blunders or offenses, however, these feelings can stop you from moving forward. You may find yourself bogged down by past mistakes and possibly even allow the ensuing feelings of guilt and shame to keep you hostage. You may benefit from learning self-forgiveness on your own or with the help of a professional.


The First Step to Emotional Healing

Letting go of feelings of guilt and shame can be important. This may only happen when you have learned to forgive yourself. Self-forgiveness can be a prerequisite for emotional healing. Even when your wrong decision, judgment or action has brought you or a person you love grief, you may need to forgive yourself. Self-forgiveness can allow you to start to heal and focus on yourself in an adept and objective manner. As you heal your mind from guilt and shame, you may find yourself better able to open up to positive things, first maybe to yourself and then to others.


Forgiving Yourself May Not Be Easy

If you are overwhelmed by a deep sense of guilt and shame, you might completely understand why forgiveness may not be easy. A serious mistake and ensuing intense feelings of guilt and shame can test your ability to forgive other people or yourself. With forgiveness, you may find yourself hurting less and you may experience less stress, anger and/or depression. You may be better able to sleep, allowing you to experience a renewed vigor and zest possibly leading you to start aiming and achieving again.


Rediscovering Self Worth with Help

Recklessness can bring serious injuries. Indulgence and the abuse of substances can lead to addiction. Infidelity can break trust and relationships. Regardless of how devastating, painful or bitter the repercussions are, you may need to move on. If you are overwhelmed with shame and guilt, you may be bound to continue to make the same mistakes over and over. Before this happens, seek the help of a counselor who can help you to find your own resolution and begin working toward forgiveness.

If guilt and shame continue to stand in the way of you living a productive life, call Carolina Counseling Services – Fuquay-Varina, NC. If you find it hard to forgive yourself, there are licensed, independently contracted therapists who can help you to begin to see your worth again so that you may begin to forgive yourself. Call today to schedule your first appointment.


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Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services – Fuquay-Varina, NC

Counties: Wake County NC

Cities: Fuquay-Varina NC, Holly Springs NC, Angier NC, Duncan NC, Chalybeate Springs NC, Feltonville NC, Garner NC, Kennebec NC, Willow Springs NC, Cokesbury NC, Holland NC, Wilbon NC, Apex NC

Zip Codes: 27501, 27502, 27523, 27526, 27529, 27539, 27540, 27592

We are located at:

Carolina Counseling Services - Fuquay-Varina, NC
602 E. Academy St. Ste. 103
Fuquay-Varina, NC 27526

(910) 624-6973

602 E. Academy St. Suite 102

Fuquay-Varina, NC 27526

How Do I Set Up my FIRST Appointment?

  • Call: (910) 624-6973 (Fastest way to schedule)
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  • Appointment scheduling for NEW clients: Mon-Fri 8:30am-5:15pm
  • New client appts may be scheduled when therapists have openings, which may include daytime, evenings and weekends.
  • Established/Standing Appointments are made directly with your therapist!
  • Referrals: MOST beneficiaries do NOT need a Referral!

View the independently contracted, Caring, Licensed Therapists. Who is the Best Fit for you?

  • Kimberly Tran, PhD, HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Individuals, Couples, anxiety, PTSD, trauma (adults who have experienced childhood physical, emotional and/or sexual abuse, Wounded Warrior) grief and loss, relationship issues, addiction, recovery, co-occuring substance abuse, couple/marital concerns, personality disorders, mood disorders.
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare (to include Tricare Prime), Medicare and cash
    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC

  • Laura Coyle, PhD, HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Adolescents, Couples, Individuals, Family, anxiety, persistent sadness and depression, mood swings, responses to trauma, grief, behavioral concerns, autism spectrum disorders, attention difficulties, excessive procrastination, challenges related to physical health concerns, relational conflicts, problematic alcohol or drug use, problematic eating patterns, communication difficulties, Affirmative and Multiculturally Competent Counseling, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare (to include Tricare Prime) Medicare and cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC

  • Teshia Utley-McKoy, MS, LPC

    Specializes in: (Ages 4+) Children, Adolescents, Individuals, Marriage and Couples counseling, Anxiety issues, Parent-child relational issues, Spirituality, Behavior Management, ADHD, ODD, PTSD Trauma, Self-Esteem, Depression, Grief and Loss, Adjustment and Transitional Issues, Coping Skills, Christian counseling.
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare (to include Tricare Prime), HSA/FSA and cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC

  • Rachel Macko, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adults, Individuals, Anxiety, Panic Disorder, OCD, Depression, Mood Disorders, PTSD, Trauma, Acute Stress Disorder, Chronic Pain/Health Concerns, Grief and Loss, Adjustment/Transitional Issues, Coping issues, Sleep Issues, Communication issues. Mindfulness Training and EMDR are available.
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Tricare Prime/Select, Cash, HSA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC
  • Sherry Horowitz, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 10+) Children, Adolescents/Teens, Adults, Individuals, Couples, Families, Communication Skills, Mood Disorders, Adjustment Disorders, ADHD, Couples/Marriage Counseling, Grief and Loss, Parenting Issues, Panic Attacks, Issues Related to Military Families, Self-Esteem, Sleep Issues, Positive Behavior Modification, Eating Disorders, Anxiety or Fears, Depression, Self-esteem, Body Image Issues, Grief and loss, ADHD in girls and women
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Tricare, HSA/FSA and cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC