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Getting Past the Loss of a Pet


Getting Past the Loss of a Pet


It can be considered normal to grieve, cry, and express emotions associated with losing a loved one. However, the same may not always be said when it comes to losing a beloved pet. Not everyone may be inclined to understand the intensity of your grief. In fact, others may even show gross insensitivity by saying “You can always get another pet.” This may cause grieving for a pet to not only be painful, but even possibly lonely as well. While grieving can be considered normal, prolonged grief can become complicated and lead to symptoms of depression.


Understanding the Depth of Your Grief

Mourning for the death of a cherished pet can mean so many things. You may actually be grieving several losses at the same time, such as:

  • The loss of a constant companion – Your pet may have been your prime buddy who kept you company. Your pet may have been one of your major sources of support and love, especially in times of sadness, depression, anxiety, or illness.
  • The loss of unconditional love – Your pet may have had an all-accepting nature, uninhabited by concern of how his expression was viewed by others. Unlike a human relationship, your pet’s affection for you may not have been dictated by what they got in return. They may have loved and shared what they thought you deserved.
  • The loss of a valued relationship – Regardless of the role that your pet assumed in your life, you lost a life you may have felt responsible for. Your pet may be the only creature that has seen your weaknesses and strengths. During those times, they may have provided you with security, comfort and stability.
  • The loss of routine – The death of a pet, especially if they have been with you for years, may means saying goodbye to everything you established as practical routines. It can completely change your physical activities. More importantly, it may deprive you of a reflexive lifestyle only your pet had provided.

As if the range of losses was not enough, your grief may be accompanied by several emotions such as guilt, anger, denial and depression. While all of these may serve to complicate your grief, they can bind you to your deceased pet, enabling you to immortalize their memory while possibly causing you psychological distress. You may find yourself fighting to get out of bed in the morning, having difficulty completing your daily tasks, experiencing sleep and appetite disturbance and even experiencing depressed mood. All the before mentioned complaints are symptoms of depression that may you may need to address with a caring professional.


Moving on with Healthy Grieving

Letting go of grief is not a betrayal to the pet that has shown you love and devotion. Moving toward feeling better is not the same as trying to forget. Of course, you may always love your pet, though there is no need to make yourself feel worse after losing them. Instead, you may need to work through your grief.

Allow Carolina Counseling Services – Fuquay-Varina, NC to help you process and work through your loss. Licensed, independently contracted counselors are available to offer their expertise and provide understanding to help you grieve in a health manner. This may indeed be a sorrowful time, though in time you may find yourself sharing your pet’s story with a smile. Call CCS today to schedule your first appointment.


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