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Family: How You Can be Different, Yet Happy and Harmonious


Family: How You Can be Different, Yet Happy and Harmonious


Differences make each person unique and diversity can add spice to life. Yet, differences are also often at the source of most conflicts. To avoid conflicts, you may find yourself avoiding those whom you perceive to be different. This strategy may not be as effective when it comes to family. Your family can bring you love, joy and support unconditionally. However, they can also bring you stress, as conflicts can be bred by the personality differences. Since you may prefer to stay together as a family, despite your differences, you may find yourself wondering how you can you maintain a happy, harmonious relationship.


Opposite Poles Attract

You may find yourself drawn to someone who is your opposite; in the psychological world this has been thought to be a way of satisfying an unfulfilled desire. As soon as you start having conflicts, you may begin to wish this law applies only in Physics. It can be very stressful to find yourself constantly battling the person you are married to. In many cases, disagreements may seem trivial, though the constant clashing can eventually take a toll on you, particularly when you have conflicting views about family issues. Before you know it, the conflicts may be far from trivial as you can begin to confront major family or marital concerns. These arguments can be upsetting and if left unresolved can lead to symptoms of depression and/or anxiety.


Sibling Rivalries

Siblings share genes, though this does not guarantee that they will share characteristics, views and/or perceptions. Growing up together, they may be the most comfortable people to have around. Though the differences siblings can have may cause them to fight a lot, especially when they are younger. While these fights may seem petty, they can have a detrimental effect on you and your family. In certain cases, these sibling fights become serious rivalries that they carry into their adulthood. Such rivalries can impact development of self-esteem, social skills and a variety of other developmental stages. As a parent, these are among the things you may want your children to work through to bring peace back to your home.


Chronic Parent –Child Conflicts

The generation gap is a psychological and emotional chasm between parents and children. This can often times occur due to the fast-paced changes that occur in our society. When parents have difficulty keeping up with what their children are experiencing this chasm can create misunderstanding, often times resulting in conflict. You may feel that in order to be effective in parenting your children you have to work to bridge this gap. This can mean understanding the potential sources of such a gap, such as communication technology and/or any other factors impacting your child on a day to day basis.


Different but Together

Personality difference can be a potent formula for familial conflicts. We cannot choose our family. If one or more than one have aggressive personalities, experience difficulty in managing impulses or intrusive symptoms, sparks can fly more often than usual. If you are a parent, these conflicts can make your life difficult, often times leading to distressing emotions as well as symptoms of depression and/or anxiety. What can you do to have a happy ambiance in your home despite the differences in your personalities?

Seek professional counseling from Carolina Counseling Services – Fuquay-Varina, NC. Licensed, independently contracted therapists can help you and your spouse handle personality differences within the family and avoid or decrease the intrusive symptoms and distress that these differences can cause. With help from the experts, you can help your family live together in harmony despite your nuances. Just like the five fingers in your hand: different but together.

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  • Kimberly Tran, PhD, HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Individuals, Couples, anxiety, PTSD, trauma (adults who have experienced childhood physical, emotional and/or sexual abuse, domestic violence, Wounded Warrior) grief and loss, relationship issues, addiction, recovery, co-occuring substance abuse, couple/marital concerns, personality disorders, mood disorders.
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    Specializes in: (Ages 4+) Children, Adolescents, Individuals, Marriage and Couples counseling, Anxiety issues, Parent-child relational issues, Spirituality, Behavior Management, ADHD, ODD, PTSD Trauma, Self-Esteem, Depression, Grief and Loss, Adjustment and Transitional Issues, Coping Skills, Christian counseling.
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    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Teens, Adults, Couples, Trauma/PTSD, Adult Survivors of Abuse, Grief and Loss, LGBTQ Issues, Anxiety, Depression, Couples/Relationship Issues, Marriage Therapy, Major Life Transitions/Adjustments, Spirituality Issues
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    Specializes in: (Ages 4+) Children, Adolescents, Adults, Couples and Families, Immigrants/Refugees/Disaster Survivors, PTSD, Trauma, Grief and Loss, Self-Esteem issues, Coping skills, Behavioral Modification, Parenting interventions, Anxiety, Depression, Adjustment issues, Bipolar and other Mood Disorders, LGBTQIA, Substance abuse, EMDR
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    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adults, Individuals, Anxiety, Panic Disorder, OCD, Depression, Mood Disorders, PTSD, Trauma, Acute Stress Disorder, Chronic Pain/Health Concerns, Grief and Loss, Adjustment/Transitional Issues, Coping issues, Sleep Issues, Communication issues. Mindfulness Training and EMDR are available.
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    Specializes in: (Ages 10+) Children, Adolescents/Teens, Adults, Individuals, Couples, Families, Communication Skills, Mood Disorders, Adjustment Disorders, ADHD, Couples/Marriage Counseling, Grief and Loss, Parenting Issues, Panic Attacks, Issues Related to Military Families, Self-Esteem, Sleep Issues, Positive Behavior Modification, Eating Disorders, Anxiety or Fears, Depression, Self-esteem, Body Image Issues, Grief and loss, ADHD in girls and women
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    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC