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Ending the Urge to Self-Harm and Improving Self-Care

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Ending the Urge to Self-Harm and Improving Self-Care

 

The deliberate act of inflicting injury on oneself, often referred to as self-harm, is not necessarily an attempt to end one’s life. It can be, however, a sign of psychological or emotional distress that may need to be addressed. If you belong to the growing number of people who have the tendency to engage in self-harm, or you have a family member who does, you may benefit from professional help in order to find the underlying cause.

 

What’s making you want to hurt yourself?

Like other individuals who intentionally self-harm, you may hurt yourself as an expression of feeling powerless, trapped, or left with no choice. Cutting, scratching, or bruising may be some of the acts you engage in to numb the emotional anguish arising related to an upsetting or traumatic experience from your past or even in response to gripping fear related to the future. A stressful life can reinforce these feelings of distress, and you may feel that the only way to express these feeling is through harming yourself.

At times, you may find that the pain of self-injury causes you to shift your focus from emotional pain such as; the agony felt during isolation, lack of feeling supported or understood and/or feeling criticized. Due to its anesthetizing effect, self-harm may be regarded as a defensive mechanism employed to survive the trauma, pain or anxiety. Behind all these, there are often deeper issues that need to be looked at in order to find the real reason for your deliberate self-harm. Some contributing factors may be; low self-esteem, family conflict and/or domestic violence.

 

The Kind of Help You Need

Perhaps you want to stop harming yourself, but don’t know where or how to begin. Yes, it’s possible to stop. Talking to your family or friends may help, and it is important to carefully choose who to confide in when addressing your feelings. You may also wish to prepare yourself for an emotional or even shocked reaction from your support system, as it is not always easy for others to grasp or understand self-harm.

Apart from addressing any medical concerns related to your injuries, you may need the kind of help a professional therapist can provide. A psychological health provider can help explore and better understand your urge to injure yourself. The more you are enlightened, the more likely you are able to choose other options for managing distress.

 

Regaining Your Self-Control

Taking control of your emotions and behaviors when you are feeling upset or helpless is possible. You may be better able to gain this control with the guidance of a mental health professional. At the  Carolina Counseling Services – Fuquay-Varina, NC, you will be listened to, not reprimanded; you’ll be spoken to with respect and understanding rather than stigmatized by your self-injury. The first step is to call CCS to arrange your first appointment. Licensed, independently contracted counselors are waiting to offer support that starts with the care and understanding that you deserve. Call today to schedule.

 

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Confidential / Private Sessions

Carolina Counseling Services – Fuquay-Varina, NC contracts with Licensed professional counselors/therapists/psychologists that provide a friendly, relaxed atmosphere. Carolina Counseling Services – Fuquay-Varina, NC contracts with friendly, caring therapists who assist adult individuals, couples, families, and children with resolving issues and getting back to enjoying their lives. Whether you are non-military or military, it will always been a pleasure to work with you. CCS and the independently contracted therapists are able and happy to assist active duty dependents and retired military and their families.

Serving Areas: Carolina Counseling Services – Fuquay-Varina, NC

Counties: Wake County NC

Cities: Fuquay-Varina NC, Holly Springs NC, Angier NC, Duncan NC, Chalybeate Springs NC, Feltonville NC, Garner NC, Kennebec NC, Willow Springs NC, Cokesbury NC, Holland NC, Wilbon NC

We are located at:

Carolina Counseling Services - Fuquay-Varina, NC
602 E. Academy St. Ste. 103
Fuquay-Varina, NC 27526

(919) 762-3185

How Do I Set Up my FIRST Appointment?

  • Call: (919) 762-3185 (Fastest way to schedule)
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  • Appointment scheduling for NEW clients: Mon-Fri 8:30am-5:15pm
  • New client appts may be scheduled when therapists have openings, which may include daytime, evenings and weekends.
  • Established/Standing Appointments are made directly with your therapist!
  • Referrals: MOST beneficiaries do NOT need a Referral!

View the independently contracted, Caring, Licensed Therapists. Who is the Best Fit for you?

  • Kimberly Tran, PhD, HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Individuals, Couples, anxiety, PTSD, trauma (adults who have experienced childhood physical, emotional and/or sexual abuse, domestic violence, Wounded Warrior) grief and loss, relationship issues, addiction, recovery, co-occuring substance abuse, couple/marital concerns, personality disorders, mood disorders.
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare (to include Tricare Prime), Medicare and cash
    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC

  • Laura Coyle, PhD, HSP-P

    Specializes in: (Ages 3+) Children, Adolescents, Couples, Individuals, Family, anxiety, persistent sadness and depression, mood swings, responses to trauma, grief, behavioral concerns, autism spectrum disorders, attention difficulties, excessive procrastination, challenges related to physical health concerns, relational conflicts, problematic alcohol or drug use, problematic eating patterns, communication difficulties, Affirmative and Multiculturally Competent Counseling, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare (to include Tricare Prime) Medicare and cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC

  • Teshia Utley-McKoy, MS, LPC

    Specializes in: (Ages 4+) Children, Adolescents, Individuals, Marriage and Couples counseling, Anxiety issues, Parent-child relational issues, Spirituality, Behavior Management, ADHD, ODD, PTSD Trauma, Self-Esteem, Depression, Grief and Loss, Adjustment and Transitional Issues, Coping Skills, Christian counseling.
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare (to include Tricare Prime), HSA/FSA and cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC

  • Diane M. McKnight, MA, MSW, LMSW, LCSW, ATR

    Specializes in: (Ages 5+) Children, Teens, Adults, Couples, Trauma/PTSD, Adult Survivors of Abuse, Grief and Loss, LGBTQ Issues, Anxiety, Depression, Couples/Relationship Issues, Marriage Therapy, Major Life Transitions/Adjustments, Spirituality Issues
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, and cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC

  • Shanna N. Reyes, MS, LPC, LCAS-A

    Specializes in: (Ages 4+) Children, Adolescents, Adults, Couples and Families, Immigrants/Refugees/Disaster Survivors, PTSD, Trauma, Grief and Loss, Self-Esteem issues, Coping skills, Behavioral Modification, Parenting interventions, Anxiety, Depression, Adjustment issues, Bipolar and other Mood Disorders, LGBTQIA, Substance abuse, EMDR
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare Prime/Select, Cash, HSA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC

  • Rachel Macko, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 18+) Adults, Individuals, Anxiety, Panic Disorder, OCD, Depression, Mood Disorders, PTSD, Trauma, Acute Stress Disorder, Chronic Pain/Health Concerns, Grief and Loss, Adjustment/Transitional Issues, Coping issues, Sleep Issues, Communication issues. Mindfulness Training and EMDR are available.
    Insurance: BCBS, Medicare, Tricare Prime/Select, Cash, HSA and FSA accepted

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC
  • Sherry Horowitz, LCSW

    Specializes in: (Ages 10+) Children, Adolescents/Teens, Adults, Individuals, Couples, Families, Communication Skills, Mood Disorders, Adjustment Disorders, ADHD, Couples/Marriage Counseling, Grief and Loss, Parenting Issues, Panic Attacks, Issues Related to Military Families, Self-Esteem, Sleep Issues, Positive Behavior Modification, Eating Disorders, Anxiety or Fears, Depression, Self-esteem, Body Image Issues, Grief and loss, ADHD in girls and women
    Insurance: BCBS, Tricare, Medicare, HSA/FSA and cash

    Credit Cards: Visa, Mastercard, Discover and American Express

    Location: Fuquay-Varina, NC