Your Child’s Anger: Can it be a symptom of a deeper emotional issue?
Parenting is something that is generally taken seriously by parents. It is your way of raising your children to become responsible, motivated, positive, loving, and productive adults. The task can offer you the best and most rewarding experiences of your life, but it may also turn to be the most challenging. The latter can’t be truer, especially when you have a child who is “special” or has certain emotional issues such as anger or excessive frustration.
If you are raising an angry child, you may have to switch gears in your parenting techniques to tailor them to their needs. While you may have the best intention in your heart, it is realistic to acknowledge that your kind of parenting may not be suitable to your child who seems to be always angry. How can you make parenting easier and effective, even fun - with an angry child?
Understanding Your Child’s Anger
It is normal to feel anger. It is natural for people– young and old – to feel the emotion in response to a justified cause. Yet, not every kind of anger, or its manifestation, is normal. When the outbursts are intense, frequent and damaging, it can impact your child and your family. This kind of anger can be a symptom of a deep emotional issue. It could be your child’s way of telling you that they don’t feel good inside.
What is making your child angry? They can be fraught with emotions that they can’t understand, such as depression, anxiety,
poor self-esteem, etc. It may also be a response to family or domestic issues – parental conflicts or divorce, sibling rivalry, extended time in day care – or by peer rejection and/or pressure.
Calm Parenting and Getting Help
The cause of your child’s anger may be emotional or biological, which may be beyond your power to diagnose or treat. Applying stern discipline when they get angry or telling them it is bad is unhealthy.
Their anger can make them live in guilt each time they feel the emotion. Letting your child’s anger affect you or the other family members would be irrational, when there are professionals who can help you become a calm parent.
Your child’s anger and emotional issues will not dissipate by being angry yourself. The best way to handle the situation is to stay calm and to seek professional help. Call Carolina Counseling Services in Fuquay-Varina, NC for an appointment. One of their contracted counselors can get to the bottom of your child’s anger. With a contracted therapist from CCS, your goals for effective and rewarding parenting can be more realistically attained.
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